The parents



Mark and Anne Raeburn have two sons at
St John’s College, Southsea 

After returning from a foreign posting, as a family we became increasingly aware that our children would need a much greater level of stability in their education. With one son about to start secondary education we began our search. Trying to do this several thousand miles away with a seven-hour time difference was quite a challenge. It quickly became apparent that St John’s College would be most accommodating. They looked at Cameron’s academic performance abroad and were exceptionally helpful in reassuring us that they could quickly pick up the slack where he had been disadvantaged in a foreign system. Since returning to the UK we have had an excellent relationship with the school and as a result Cameron’s brother Findlay also enrolled to the Senior School. As the school is in the centre of Southsea, we were also pleased that if the boys had any problems they would be able to contact our friends in the Service, based in Portsmouth, at short notice.

The school has excellent sports facilities and the extra-curricular activities at the weekends are well thought out with the children having the majority of the input. The boarding facilities are all on site in several detached houses, which have recently been refurbished to a high standard and have a very homely feel especially for the younger children. There are a significant number of Service families in the boarding community and through a Service Parents’ Group meeting held at the end of every term we have managed to help shape the whole boarding experience for our children. During this meeting we discuss any issues that may be unique to Service parents, especially those serving abroad. We also discuss any events or activities that we, as Service parents, would like to see happening at the school. 

There was an opportunity for Cameron to transfer to another college for sixth form but he was very keen to remain at St John’s. I think this is the best endorsement one could wish for.

Andy and Natalie Flay have two sons at Taunton School

Natalie and I have discovered that Taunton is truly interested in all children – not just the incredibly bright or sporty ones. It’s very egalitarian, both in its attitude to its pupils and in its parent base, and we’ve found this attitude permeates through Taunton School pupils. They really do understand that the more they put into life, inevitably, the more they get back. And we’ve discovered that both our boys really do have the most unbelievable opportunities to ‘put into’ their school careers. They’ve gone from a limited appreciation of the technical aspects of many sports to fully-fledged rugby, athletics, hockey, cricket, tennis and swimming aficionados. It’s been fantastic to watch them both develop such a love of sport. When we can, we do try and watch matches – though this is often difficult. However when we do we’re so impressed by the fact that Taunton regularly fields A, B, C and D teams. The mantra is that everyone should play competitive sport and have the opportunity to represent their school. 

Previously English was a cross our eldest son bore with fortitude – if nothing else. It’s now his second favourite subject. How and where Taunton found the key to unlock this is beyond his frankly astonished parents – but we’re truly grateful – for his sake (not just our own!). We’ve also discovered that both boys can sing – and the eldest one seems to have developed a love of ‘treading the boards’! Last term we were both fortunate enough to watch him in the winning group in the Group Acting Class at the Taunton Arts Festival. He also made a brilliantly terrifying Chief Pirate in the Year 6 play, Pirates and Mermaids. We had no idea that he had any interest or ability in speech and drama and yet Taunton found it and drew it out of him!

As for the boarding aspect, our worries about how the boys might settle evaporated almost immediately. (Frequent postings have meant that they had both been to several schools and so we worried that it might take them a while to settle.) The boarding team is kind, caring and imaginative and the boarders seem to absolutely love being there. Recently, when we finally managed to track our eldest son down via the telephone to wish him a happy birthday, he promptly informed us that he ‘couldn’t talk right now’ as he was too busy playing ‘Capture the Flag.’ That told us! 

In a nutshell it would be accurate to describe Taunton as a school that brilliantly draws children out of their comfort zones while managing to remain grounded, kind and caring. As a military family I really don’t think we could have picked a better school for our boys. 

David and Lyanne Willey have two daughters at Barnard Castle School 

I used to be one of those parents who thought that I would never be able to let go enough to send my children to boarding school, but after five schools by the time my eldest daughter Chloe had reached ten, and the heartfelt tears she shed after saying goodbye to her friends and teachers each time, we decided enough was enough. Because our family and friends were mainly located in Yorkshire, we chose to look around that area so that Chloe and Aimee would always have somebody nearby. We chose Barnard Castle.

As soon as you walk into Barney the first thing you notice is how genuinely happy the staff and pupils are. With the well-equipped classrooms, the safe and spacious school grounds and the beautiful location, what’s not to like! The school worked around our needs – if we needed to drop Chloe off early so that we could catch a ferry back home, or if we couldn’t attend parents’ meetings, the school couldn’t have been more helpful, offering lots of different solutions. In her first two terms at Barney Chloe had already achieved so much and we put this down to her new friends and the very gifted and dedicated teachers who make her learning incredibly enjoyable.  

At first, boarding life was understandably difficult for all of us, but because of the amazing care, family values and the wide-ranging opportunities that the boarders receive I was inundated with happy FaceTime calls. We are always very well informed through the comprehensive range of communication, including the weekly newsletter, fixtures and events on the website, telephone calls and letters. Family and friends can go to the many sports events.   

My youngest daughter Aimee (nine years old) was left at home with friends moving away constantly. After hearing about all the genuine fun that Chloe was having, she asked if she could go earlier than we had planned. They are now both at Barney, sharing a room, competing together, enjoying the wide range of opportunities available and making some fantastic friends and memories that will stay with them forever.

 Alex and Anna Potts have chosen Hanford School for their three daughters

We have three daughters and when they were little we were lucky enough to be based in Scotland where we had a blissful family time. We knew that with our next posting a boarding school for our eldest, then eight, would be inevitable, as it would offer her the educational stability she needed. She had already attended three different schools by the time she was eight and was experienced at moving. However, dealing with change was difficult for her and our other children. Particularly when it came to saying goodbye to established friends and facing the prospect of starting afresh all over again somewhere new.

Choosing a boarding school is never an easy process and for Service parents, location is not necessarily the key issue – it’s about finding the ‘right’ place. There are lots of prep schools to choose from up and down the country and it’s simply not practical to see them all, especially when you live in Scotland. So to help us narrow it down we relied on the advice of friends and family and a few of them, including an Army colleague of Alex’s, recommended the same school – Hanford.

We set off from Scotland to look at a handful of schools not knowing really what to expect. From the minute we rolled down the drive at Hanford it was obvious this was the school for our family. Set in the heart of some of Dorset’s most beautiful countryside and housed in a fascinating Jacobean manor, Hanford, although being a great school, still manages to feel like a home. There are stables with ponies and chickens pottering around, a working kitchen garden, a walled garden full of flowers and happy children running around the gardens and climbing trees.

We were shown round the school by a pair of delightful girls who chatted non-stop about the school almost as if it were their second home pointing out, alongside the classrooms, places where they loved to spend time and play. The school seeks to nurture simple family values including kindliness and good manners, as well as developing confidence by nurturing success in both academic work and play. Hanford is firmly focused on drawing the potential out of the individual girls. I can honestly say it does just that.

Seven years on, our two oldest daughters have left and our youngest is boarding at Hanford. I have become a Governor and am involved more than I ever imagined I would be. The school has added something to all of our lives and all the grandparents have been taken by its unique charm. The school really does look after the individual with its small class sizes and talented teachers. The girls genuinely don’t realise how hard they are working. They have all secured places in their preferred schools, with an abundance of scholarships to boot, as well as enjoying outstanding academic, sporting and musical results. All while still being able to go for their early morning pony rides, clambering up the cedar tree (all branches named), gardening, handwork, but above all allowing them to cherish their childhood.

We ask our oldest daughters what they miss about Hanford and there is an endless list focusing on friends, teachers, ponies, dares, committees, rollerblading, plays, music, art and sport. Our youngest daughter couldn’t be happier – sadly for her Mummy! It is her third school and we really appreciate how important it is to select the right school to support our nomadic lifestyle. The girls would have really struggled without the stability and continuity that a boarding school provides. It’s a huge decision sending your children away to school but one that is made easier for us knowing that Hanford’s staff are looking after them and the children are truly happy. We owe much to Hanford and I’m in a very lucky position of being able to help secure its future for other families in years to come. 

Stuart and Elizabeth Bartlett have twin daughters at Queen’s College, Taunton

As my Service career had been reasonably stable – having been based at RNAS Yeovilton in Somerset for many years – boarding school was not the path we expected to take regarding our twin girls’ education. With excellent schools on our doorstep everything seemed set for a smooth passage through the education system.

However the demise of the Harrier then necessitated a move and no stable base area at the time. Remembering colleagues’ academic and emotional turmoil associated with multiple school movements, we started researching our options regarding boarding schools with some trepidation.

The plethora of available schools can seem overwhelming – how to make, for all, an extremely important decision. Queen’s College, Taunton, was the first school we visited. From the minute we arrived on open day we were made to feel welcome and any questions we had were answered open and honestly. Everyone expects a school to be at its best on an open day but, looking beyond this, we could see a family values run school, where pupils were championed to excel in their own fields. Yes, the facilities were impressive but also the welfare of the child seemed paramount to all.

However, to ensure we covered all aspects of our children’s educational needs, a comprehensive programme of visits to schools in the region followed. Every school exceeded our expectations, each proclaiming its exam results and excellences. In truth, this made our decision even harder. Such was our length of deliberation that a new round of open days arrived and so a second visit was required to create a small shortlist. Once we had listed all our requirements, as a family we determined that Queen’s was the one.

Next step was a taster session – not a showcasing opportunity, just the occasion to take part in normal school life. Our girls didn’t want to come home afterwards, embracing the new school life from the start. Originally planning to start boarding in Year 6, they insisted they wanted to join earlier, an indication of their wholehearted approval. Cue frantic labelling of uniform and constant reassurance to each other that we had done the right thing. I don’t know who was the most apprehensive or tearful when packing their suitcases for their first term – me or my wife. It certainly wasn’t our girls.

Although it is not a military boarding school, Queen’s has a significant Service boarding community. The school therefore understands the unique situation of Service life with all its rewards and challenges. The pastoral system is fully embedded, with the school ensuring boarders have the opportunity for stimulating and fun clubs and activities and are not left to amuse themselves. Their school parents (our children’s words not ours) are always available to overcome any problems. Something that seems trivial at first can easily escalate when mum and dad are not around to placate or rectify but the staff were always there to help. As our girls have progressed through senior school, more freedom has been granted to them and therefore some degree of autonomy, especially regarding time and work management. Without realising it, they are gaining life skills we could only dream of at that age.

Did we feel guilty sending them to a boarding school? Of course we did. Saying goodbye to them on a Sunday night followed by a long drive home was distressing for us at first. Although we never experienced emotional breakdowns over the phone, the calls would sometimes be tearful and the length of hugs before our departure extensive. In time though, the calls have steadily drifted from tearful to happy to a rarity, all as a result of the extensive care and attention from staff and matrons to ensure a happy boarding school life.

Receiving a hectic and frantic FaceTime call as they can only spare us ten minutes before rushing off to do something else exciting at school or in their dorm is now bizarrely a strange reassurance. While they appreciate their home life, the camaraderie they have with fellow boarders mimics Service life and is to be treasured long into adulthood.

The comprehensive and honest feedback from the school regarding their academic progress, combined with the development of their maturity we have seen over a few short years, has fully vindicated our decision. The final indication of ultimate approval surely must be – would we do this all over again? The answer from all the family is a most positive ‘Yes’.

Gavin Genthall’s children are at Clifton College

As a Service family, we decided on Clifton for a variety of reasons. Of course, the school’s high reputation across the academic, sporting and pastoral disciplines was our paramount concern and Clifton holds its own against its West Country competitors. Also, having a son and daughter with an age difference of two years, we clearly wanted a co-ed school that offered both preparatory and upper school on the same site in order to simplify the logistics. Similarly, in the event that we are posted abroad in future, and with our nearest family being in Scotland, we wanted a school that was easy for national and international travel. With Bristol International Airport only 25 minutes away, Bristol railway station ten minutes away and the M4/M5 15 minutes away, the school was certainly the best linked of the dozen or so West Country schools we looked at. 

Although we didn’t initially realise it would be a major factor, the healthy ratio of day to boarding students has been a major bonus – our children have as many friends who are day pupils as boarders. This has meant they are regularly invited for ‘sleepovers’ and now consider Bristol their home, something every Service family will recognise as important.

We initially looked at schools in rural or small town settings but we are delighted with our choice of a city school (albeit in a very leafy suburb). Its proximity to Clifton Village is perhaps one of the school’s unique selling points, being a wonderfully safe environment for the children to begin to venture into the city by themselves and with all the cosmopolitan attractions of Bristol to hand. 

Finally, Clifton manages to strike that fine balance of being receptive to the needs of Service families, but without having too many pupils from Service families. We wanted our children to grow up with children from a wide range of backgrounds. 

All in all, we would have absolutely no hesitation in recommending Clifton to other Service parents looking for a great place to educate their children.

Andrew and Deborah Thorne have two sons and a daughter at The Duke of York’s Royal Military School 

Like many Service parents, our children moved several times during their primary school years, and the constant change was starting to take its toll on them. Although they were very good at making friends, they had no chance to develop deeper friendships, and they often never overcame the stage of feeling like the outsiders. We came to a family decision that once they reached secondary school age boarding was the only option which would give them continuity in those very important years, allow them to make (and keep) long-term friends, and offer them consistency of both academic and extra-curricular activity which we could not guarantee at each posting. 

As parents we had certain criteria for choosing a school. The first was that the school had to be broad enough in its remit to offer a wide enough choice of facilities and subjects to a level for all three children to attend the same school (if I couldn’t be there to parent them, then I wasn’t going to even countenance them being separated!). The second was that it had to offer full boarding. We have been based in Germany since 2015 and will be here until 2020. We don’t have family in the UK that could help at weekends or exeats, so it was crucial that the full boarding package was lively enough to make them feel part of the school (not the lone military children in the boarding house at the weekends). The last was that the school should have significant experience of dealing with Service families, and the last-minute constraints and hiccups we all go through, and be flexible enough to accommodate them.

The Duke of York’s Royal Military School ticked all those boxes for us. The Principal Alex Foreman previously taught at an MoD school in Germany, and there are many Service children at the school who understand each other’s lives and what it is like to have a family that is moving or a parent deployed (not always the case in some of our primary schools).  

The children are thriving academically and throwing themselves into all the out-of-hours activities they want to (realistically if they had stayed at home they would have had to compromise and only have two activities a week each (if we could have found them something locally)). They are reaping the benefits of being with the same children in the same sports teams and growing and developing as a unit. They love the musical opportunities the school offers (we very rarely get phone calls in the week as they are always rushing from one rehearsal to another), the holiday trips and adventure training. They love staying at school over exeat weekends – they see it as a treat in itself.

They are developing into confident and polite young adults with a real sense of identity and belonging with their school. When I ask them if we have made the right choice with boarding and with the choice of school the answer is an emphatic ‘Yes on both counts’.


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